Cult of Celebrities and Fantasies ... A Filipino Obsession?
Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. The question is where does the standard of the beholder come from? The ideal vital statistics for women is 36-24-36, But imagine if a woman with vital statistics of 40-46-43 wants to enter a beauty pageant? I wonder what she would look like during the swimsuit attire? In social media, we see a lot of videos of a man doing extravagant things for his woman. But don’t we notice that those lucky women are the ones who have been blessed of beauty. A standard of beauty that all of us were born into.
When I was younger, my cousins always bullied me, because among all of us, I was the fattest, most dark-skinned, and had the messiest hair. In short I was the most unfortunate. My self-esteem was lowered and it lead me asking my parents if I was adopted.
In my young age, I had already tried using silka papaya, but as you can see it was not effective on my skin, I also tried re-bonding my hair for several times, but it just kept on going back to my dry and wavy hair. I almost took diet pills, but luckily I’m still in my normal state of mind.
The Media has an influence on beauty standards throughout the world. Television and print ads are major methods of spreading the toxic ideas of: “you’re too big, your hair is not straight enough, and you are not fair enough.” How did the media influence the beauty standards? It is through the celebrities that seems to doesn’t have any flaw. Have you seen a not so pretty celebrity that has big projects and partnered to a good looking guy? None. Johanna Celis, popularly known as Kiray, started in show business when she is young with Kathryn Bernardo and Julia Montes. Kiray has been active in show business for quite a long time compared to the two. But does she have done big projects and Teleseryes in which she has the main role? No. Most of the shows she was in, she always played a supporting role that is usually made fun of. She didn’t choose the role, but it is what was given to her despite of her visible talents in acting.
Society is moldable and whoever is the top celebrity will be extremely influential. Media research has shown that adolescents, who are often vulnerable because their personalities and self-image are still forming, often depend on television characters to find their way in the world and to set a standard for them to follow. This standard has influenced their views on what characteristics a woman must have to be considered as beautiful not only during their puberty stage but also all throughout their lives.
Beauty can now indeed be used as a social status, but for me real beauty can never be seen in the physical appearance of a person. Real beauty is rarely seen by people. Confucius once stated: “Everything has beauty, but not everyone can see it.” This philosophy explicates that true beauty is in the eye of the beholder.
Everyone is beautiful. There might be circumstances when people look down on their own physical appearance. It is because they are comparing themselves to others too much. We always contra-distinguish our imperfections when we are striving to be someone else. We are special in our own way. If we really want to think of ourselves as beautiful, we should be thankful and faithful. We do not have to brag about our beauty, but we can prove to ourselves that we are valuable.
Whether you’re fat, dark-skinned, has wavy hair, snub-nosed and does not look like Liza Soberano. Whether you look like Melai Cantiveros, Diego, or even Neggi, you are beautiful. I now realize that we don’t have to be beautiful as what others think beautiful means. We have our own flaws. Being ourselves is something to be proud of. Our world is full of beauty because we are all made that way. This is life’s great reality – that reality itself is beautiful.